It is often said that gay relationships don’t or can’t last, that male behaviour is such that the chances of them doing so are slim. So, what is the truth of the matter?
I have chosen for this “assignment” of answering the question to go into a mode of reply that calls upon me to suspend my own beliefs and opinions and follow what my heart says (automatic writing). In doing so, the result is this piece you see before you here.
The truth of the matter is easy: there is no inherent issue with gay people having relationships that last. It is a matter of choice. However, many choose alternate lifestyles that are no less valid and involve multiple partnerships over a lifetime or even no partnerships at all.
Why should a gay relationship be inherently any less likely to succeed than a “normal” (heterosexual) one? There is no valid reason, just ones thrown out by those who are cynical or disruptive in their beliefs, singling out gay relationships as different or somehow “wrong” in nature. The fact is that when two humans fall in love they may endure if the relationship itself endures and is desired to endure. What I mean by that is that relationships are often not required for a lifetime and therefore there is no valid reason to continue it other than attachment to a concept. This is true for all humans [see “Till Death Us Do Part”]. However, where they do feel a desire for it to continue, then it may do so, subject to appropriate measures to allow people to grow together and handle personal and life changes constructively.
It is arrogance to think that one is singled out for better performance in life relationships merely by dint of being “straight”. Indeed, it is foolish given the current state of the institution of marriage in most societies around the world!
So, to sum up, there is no reason why one relationship should inherently last longer than another. It is down to the commitment people choose to make and the extent to which they are suited in the first place. That is all.
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